I like the idea of DIY.
So charming.
So personal.
Avoid commercialism.
Save money.
Then again...
So time consuming.
And ohh the vanities!!
I feel after a DIY project I feel so self-absorbed, guilty that I ignored the needs of the people around me and that I wasted my life on something not as meaningful as more vital tasks like sleeping and eating and reading my Bible. Perhaps I need to practice dovetailing where I do something meaningful at the same time but in this season of life I don't enjoy DIY. I first learned this lesson while making invites for our wedding and especially from my hubby who said sometimes time is money and it's okay to pay for something to get done so I can save time to do more important things. It's more apparent now with raising a family, that I need to cut out or limit DIY projects for now. I really don't know how other Christian moms can do side endeavors without neglecting other vital duties. I need to also take into account my new roles as wife and mom are steep learning curves that take time learn for now.
I have memories of absorbing myself in a hobby and finishing it to completion. Especially in my single years. Now I desire to be faithful with today's tasks which mean withholding the DIY projects for a later time or even eternity when I'll have a lot of time... I don't know if I'll want to DIY by then but at least I can be content that I stewarded my time the best I could. Not perfectly but I hope I can redeem whatever time I have left my seeking first His kingdom, trusting God and fearing Him
Monday, June 6, 2016
Wednesday, March 2, 2016
What I have been learning lately- Parenting, natural vs. biblical... (Sola Scriptura)
These are just raw thoughts in my mind at the moment. I'm not sure what to do with them.
God designed us. He knew exactly what He is doing.
So knowing that I feel like understanding newborn biology and such... mother's instincts kicked in on how to take care of a baby.
General revelation.
Natural can be good however it can't be ultimate.
I don't think it is natural for us to recognize that we we are sinners, and to submit to God given authority.
Our sin has tainted our desires and what feels natural isn't always God honouring.
Instead of looking inside (our instincts) to make decisions we also need to look outside (to God, Scripture) for the truth.
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9)
Specific revelation comes from God. I don't think it comes "naturally".
It was after Joanna was 1 year (~14 months) that I discovered her self-will. Maybe she had it all along and I was delusional. I realized she wasn't just a lump of joy but a human with a hell-bent nature that is rebellious toward God, parents and loves self. Sounds mean to say that but... this is what natural is! This is our human condition, our default. If we don't come to acknowledge this "bad news" how can be possibly accept the "good news" with rejoicing?
God designed us. He knew exactly what He is doing.
So knowing that I feel like understanding newborn biology and such... mother's instincts kicked in on how to take care of a baby.
General revelation.
Natural can be good however it can't be ultimate.
I don't think it is natural for us to recognize that we we are sinners, and to submit to God given authority.
Our sin has tainted our desires and what feels natural isn't always God honouring.
Instead of looking inside (our instincts) to make decisions we also need to look outside (to God, Scripture) for the truth.
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9)
Specific revelation comes from God. I don't think it comes "naturally".
It was after Joanna was 1 year (~14 months) that I discovered her self-will. Maybe she had it all along and I was delusional. I realized she wasn't just a lump of joy but a human with a hell-bent nature that is rebellious toward God, parents and loves self. Sounds mean to say that but... this is what natural is! This is our human condition, our default. If we don't come to acknowledge this "bad news" how can be possibly accept the "good news" with rejoicing?
We were led to read a book on parenting that helped us understand everyone's need for the Gospel (including babies)! Babies are humans and humans are sinners. Babies are therefore just little sinners.
But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8).
I have also have scrapped things out of my phrases/vocabulary: As (mother) nature intended it --> God's design. I try to remind myself that God designed things a certain away and he is totally wise. I can praise God for it. I can also see that though we don't always do things the way "nature" intends it, (e.g. let's say a baby getting fed with formula instead of breastfeeding, I realize some things are natural vs. artificial, and some decisions are just plain ungodly. In case of formula I think it's unnatural to feed baby formula, but I don't think it is ungodly or unscriptural. I praise God that there are places like the West where clean water is accessible and that kids are able to survive with out breastmilk if it has to be that way... I mean I was formula fed. Though scientifically breastfeeding is better nutritionally and for bonding, and I believe God was really smart when he made our breasts... I realize it is not a matter to judge my own sister in Christ if she chooses to formula feed.
I also think the whole natural parenting/attachment stuff has some benefit but I realize when it starts going against Scripture (e.g. the issue of corrective discipline)... this is where I draw the line and not let a parenting philosophy be my God. Who am I to say that I know better than God to decide how I ought to parent rather than let Him who made me decide how I should parent? Perhaps my natural instincts aren't as reliable as I previously thought after all.
I also think the whole natural parenting/attachment stuff has some benefit but I realize when it starts going against Scripture (e.g. the issue of corrective discipline)... this is where I draw the line and not let a parenting philosophy be my God. Who am I to say that I know better than God to decide how I ought to parent rather than let Him who made me decide how I should parent? Perhaps my natural instincts aren't as reliable as I previously thought after all.
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